Book Review: Recovery by Russell Brand #1/28/2018

First off, let me just say that it’s been a while since I’ve posted anything to my blog and I’m so sorry about that for those of you who are following. Life got so crazy for a while there but I’m back into a regular schedule now and my goal is to post a review for every book I read this year. So, without further ado, let us begin with my first review of 2018: Recovery: Freedom from our addictions by Russell Brand.


Based on the 12-step Alcoholics Anonymous program, Brand brings this otherwise inaccessible, and rather stereotypical, model for overcoming our addictions into a fresh and relatable light. One of the things I found most interesting about this book was how Russell “branded” (you see what I did there?) it to make it more accessible to anyone who has an addiction to anything; from chocolate, to social media, gambling, sex, alcohol or drugs, you can see from the cover that this book is probably for you.

I’m not usually a fan of the quote-unquote “self-help books” and tend to find them rather misleading in the sense that they might help you in the short term but your problems either come back, or they just spout common sense at you over and over again page after page. I have to say that this book took a refreshing departure from that tradition and I actually found myself quite enjoying what Brand had to say.

Some of his key insights were things that I had either never thought of before, or were phrased in such a way as to make me revel in them all over again. Surprisingly (or maybe not so surprisingly if you’ve read any of Russell’s other books) Brand is quite a proficient writer and wordsmith. In fact, I actually had to look up over 40 new words while reading this book which, for a bibliophile like me, was absolutely amazing. Here’s a short excerpt that I hope will demonstrate the succinct yet poetic prose that pulls you ever so gently through the book:

What I used to think of as happiness was merely distraction from the pain. The pain of disconnection, of separateness from you. All longing, all yearning, all thirst, flung on unworthy surrogates, false idols, unsated by unworthy objects still pulling us unwillingly back together.

One of the main themes throughout the book is how addictive behaviour is used to mask some sort of pain that one is going through and can’t seem to face alone.

Now to get on to the reason why in particular picked up this book as my first read of 2018 is not only because of my admiration of Russell Brand as a comedian and a human being, but because I too have struggled with an addiction and self-destructive behaviour throughout my life. Physically it manifested as an addiction to sugar, but psychologically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally there were some deeper issues there that I’ve had to learn how to overcome, and can say with some certainty that this book has definitely helped me make a positive change in my life.

One of the only issues I had with the book was that there were some steps in the 12 step program that seemed to be a bit too much for someone with a “less complex” addiction to say sugar or shopping like myself. For example, having to make an extensive inventory of all of the harm I’ve done other people and then apologize to them seems a bit silly for a sugar addiction and I was left wondering if Russell’s belief was that all twelve steps should be done no matter what addiction you display.

Either way this is a book that I feel everyone could benefit from reading because whether you think you have an addiction that has negatively impacted your life or not, there are some real solid ideas and practices you can pick up from this book if you simply want to change the way you experience the world.

The point of undertaking this program, of picking up this book, is to change the way it feels to be in your own head because on some level you don’t like it in there. It is making you unhappy. You think thoughts and feel feelings that are unpleasant to experience. – Brand, pg. 192

Let me know if you’ve read this book and what you thought? And as always, happy reading friends 🙂


Book Review: 13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher

13 Reasons Why NOT

I recently read 13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher at the recommendation of someone at my local bookstore. Without giving too much away I can tell you that the book is about a girl who commits suicide and leaves behind cassette tapes with the 13 reasons why she killed herself, on them. Needless to say I was less than impressed and here are the 13 reasons why.

  1. Anonymous: The book jumps right in and immediately starts off the first chapter with the tapes. As a reader, I had zero connection with Hannah at this point, and I literally felt no sympathy for her at all. Without the character development that would have been useful if there were at least 2-3 chapters about her before she killed herself, I simply could not relate to her and the trivial events that led to her suicide. This book would have been 10x better if the author had allowed us to get to know Hannah better before she died, so we would have an investment in her, and what happens to her. With her already being gone at the beginning, it’s almost makes it harder to care about her because I already knew her fate.
  2. Annoying: The format of the book was confusing and difficult to read. Hannah’s voice on the tapes are written in italics, while the main character, Clay’s thoughts are interspersed in regular font. Sometimes I wouldn’t notice that the font changed between italic and regular and would confuse Hannah’s voice with Clay’s. This made it super annoying because I would have to keep going back to re-read what I just read!
  3. Antagonizing: Hannah’s tapes come of sounding more like she killed herself out of anger, than depression, just to get revenge on the people she was mad at and to make them feel bad after she died. It just seemed like it was too orchestrated and planned out, rather than a last minute resort to escape the pain.
  4. Unrealistic: Hannah’s reasons for committing suicide just don’t seem realistic, and almost makes light of the very real events that lead to a person choosing to end their own life. I grew up on the reserve, and we have a higher rate of suicide than the rest of Canada. There are 12, 13, and 14 year olds choosing to end their life in my community, and people even younger than that, like 6 and 7 year olds committing suicide in Indigenous communities up north. Suicide is not something I take lightly, and reading about the trivial events that lead to Hannah’s suicide made me feel like the author was presenting suicide as a viable option when regular teenage experiences start to happen to you.
  5. Ripple effect: I just found it so dumb and hated the idea that someone who took their own life would decide to try to cause other people the same pain and suffering that they went through. With the tapes Hannah leaves behind, it could potentially cause a ripple effect and cause other characters in the book to commit suicide as well. If I knew I was one of the reasons someone decided to kill themselves, I would feel so bad I’d probably think about killing myself too. Hannah could have inspired a chain reaction of suicides in her town, and myself, having lived on the reserve and witnessed first-hand the effects of suicide in my community, can safely say that if one of our young people killed themselves and left tapes like this, the consequences would be much more public and far-reaching.
  6. Sexualizing: There were so many parts where this book made me cringe harder than I ever have before, due to the blatant sexualization of Hannah, by the main character Clay, who’s supposed to be the only stand-up good guy in her school. I thought this was doing more damage because it made me dislike not only Hannah, but Clay’s character as well. Here’s an example of one such occasion on page 40 of my copy. Hannah’s voice on the tapes says, “Truth is, Jessica Davis is so much prettier than I am. Write up a list of every body part and you’ll have a row of checkmarks the whole way down for each time her body beats mine.” and then Clay thinks, “I disagree, Hannah. All the way down.” I mean, EW! Gross, even the way Clay thinks is creepy.
  7. Glamorizing: This book 100% makes suicide look like something you can do if you want to become immortalized. On page 97 Clay admits that he shouldn’t be listening to these morbid, exploitive, tapes, but he justifies his actions by saying he’s living out Hannah’s last requests. She did this to be remembered and become immortalized. These are not the final actions of someone who can’t bear to live any longer. They’re revenge, and the suicide was used as a tool to get attention.
  8. Incriminating: It’s clear that Hannah has a personal vendetta against all the people she names on the tapes and uses them to make a diatribe against everyone. Her tone is consistently sarcastic and immature at best and it almost comes across as though she wants someone to release the tapes because it would literally implicate everyone listed on them. Suicide is a very serious subject and is not taken lightly in a court of law. Those who are involved could face serious criminal charges, and I feel like Hannah knew this and made the tapes, then kill herself just to get revenge, which undermines the real suffering that suicide victims go through. Here are but a few examples of Hannah’s sarcastic tone:
    1. p. 93, Referring to Courtney Crimsen: “You’re definitely one of the most popular girls in school. And you…are…just…so…sweet. Right? Wrong.
    2. p. 120, “Do you remember those career surveys we had to fill out freshman year, the ones that were supposed to help us choose electives? According to my survey, I’d make a wonderful lumberjack. And if that career didn’t workout, I could use my fallback career as an astronaut. An astronaut or a lumberjack? Seriously? Thanks for the help.
    3. p. 182, “‘Expose yourself,’ they said. ‘Let us see your deepest and darkest.’ My deepest and darkest? What are you, my gynaecologist?’ Hannah.”
  9. Convenient: The book is written in the most annoyingly convenient and blatantly obvious way! Every new location that Hannah mentions in her tapes, Clay just happens to be around the corner from. Example, page 62 “I’ve only been to Monet’s a few times but I think it’s on the street the bus is going down now.” and on page 101, “D-4. It’s only a handful of blocks from Tyler’s house.” Like make it a little more difficult or just don’t even try and pretend. So pointless.
  10. The writing: Let’s face it, the writing itself is just horrible and so awkward. Some examples, “More girls have dumped him out of car envy than my lips have ever kissed.” *cringe* or “Maybe I’ll get lucky! Maybe there will be a sign posted in his yard. PEEPING TOM — COME INSIDE. I can’t stifle a laugh at my own lame joke.” *lame indeed Clay* or “If you ever caught me reading one of those teen magazines, I swear; it wasn’t for the makeup tips. It was for the surveys. Because you never wore makeup, Hannah. You didn’t need it.” *bleh*
  11. Characters: Is there supposed to be a likeable character in this book, or any character AT ALL?! Every person is either so bland that they have no interesting traits, or they killed themselves or made someone else kill them-self. It’s all just a bunch of trivial jerks (including Hannah) who are given little to no background story at all.
  12. Message: In the Q&A section at the end of my book, the author said that the message he wanted to send with this book is that people should be nice to each other because you never know what’s going on with another person. I don’t think this message came across clearly enough, and it could have been made more clear that this is the message. Most of the characters in the book, other than Clay, don’t even seem remorseful one bit about what happened to Hannah, and it just made me sad for the human race.
  13. Thirteen Reasons: It seems like the author, who is indeed an older male writing about the high school experiences of a female teenager, just didn’t quite grasp the things that would lead someone to killing themselves. I’ve taken quite a few suicide intervention trainings (ASIST 3 times, and SAFETALK 2 times) and have had to use this training twice to help a friend who was having thoughts of suicide. I’m not saying that what Hannah went through doesn’t happen. I’m sure it does, just that it wasn’t enough for me to believe that someone would want to kill themselves afterward. For these 13 reasons, I did not like this book, but I can see how it has opened up a conversation about suicide that wasn’t happening before so there are some benefits to it. This book just wasn’t for me.

Note: I did start watching the Netflix original series of 13 Reasons Why and it is a huge improvement on the book. It actually does some character development and I can see why people like the show.

Book Review: Vicious by V.E. Schwab

I finished this book in 3 days, not because I’m a super fast reader, but because I literally could not put it down! This hasn’t happened to me in a long time… but there’s really nothing I disliked about this book.

Reading on the GO Train on the way to a concert
 Something about the structure of the book kept me addicted. The format used flashbacks throughout to develop characters and give background on what was happening in the present.

The basic plot involves two friends making a startling and disturbing discovery while doing research for a college paper. The effects of this new knowledge tears them apart and one of them spends years in jail planning his revenge.

Eli and Victor are the two best friends, turned enemies, after a literal matter of life and death destroys their friendship. While Eli has a god-complex, Victor is very logical and scientific, but both make decisions based on their emotions and hatred of each other. During his time in jail, Victor picks up a friend named Mitch, and these two come across an unfortunate young girl named Sydney. Meanwhile, Eli gets a sidekick of his own, who just happens to be Sydney’s older sister.

The essential themes throughout this book are good versus evil, or, depending on who you ask, evil versus evil. I found it to be very interesting how Schwab wove in these themes without making them seem obvious or forced in any way.

One question I asked myself continuously throughout the reading was how interesting it is that we can justify our actions as being morally “right” when the opposite side feels the exact same way about their position. It lead me to realize that there are two sides to every story, and sometimes there is not necessarily one right answer and one wrong answer (unless you’re Donald Trump, in which case, everything you do and say is the wrong answer).

“Plenty of humans were monstrous, and plenty of monsters knew how to play at being human.” – Schwab exposes the dichotomous nature of human beings.

There were a lot of parallels between this book and what’s happening in the real world. For example, how misguided ideologies can lead people to believe or justify their actions, even when they’re bad. It seems all too familiar with what’s happening in both the United States, and abroad.

Another parallel can be drawn between the influential power that Serena, Eli’s sidekick, holds over people and how society is being brainwashed by misinformation. Serena can literally compel people to do what she says. When this much power is held in the wrong hands, the consequences can be fatal.

Overall, this was a perfect book! I cannot wait for the sequel and look forward to reading A Darker Shade of Magic and Our Dark Duet. V.E. Schwab is my favourite contemporary author!


A visit to the new Ancaster Indigo & mini book haul

What better thing is there to do on a lazy, rainy, Sunday afternoon than visit your newly renovated local bookstore? Evidently  nothing, because that is exactly what everyone decided to do today! 

My brother Ryan standing outside of Indigo in Ancaster

If you didn’t know, the Chapters in Ancaster recently underwent a renovation and became an Indigo. So it’s still the same chain, just under a different name and completely different look. 

The first sight you see upon entering the new Indigo

I brought my brother to check out the new store with me, but we ran into quite a few people we know. Apparently great minds really do think alike because not only did my brother run into his friend Adriano, I also ran into my friend and fellow book lover, Sara. (PS – Sara is also an amazing blogger and writer. If you want to check out her website click here).

Inside the renovated Indigo

As I explored the discounted YA fiction, I heard a quiet but familiar voice almost whisper, “Chelsey?” I turned and to my pleasant surprise, there was Sara and her family out celebrating Father’s Day. 

Sara and I in front of the Game of Thrones Fantasy section 🙂

Needless to say, we immediately started talking about the new store and all the books we want to read over the next 10,000 years that it would take to read them. 

Then I ran into my favourite Ancaster Indigo employee, Will. We’ve probably been bookstore friends for over a year now because every time I go I see him and we start chatting. He always has great recommendations and when I showed him that I was getting one of the books he suggested today, we high-fived in the middle of the fiction section. 

I ended up getting three books, although I probably would have gotten more if I spent more time there, but I’m super happy about these picks. 

Victoria Schwab, or V.E. Schwab, is quickly becoming one of my favourite writers. I’m currently reading Vicious but decided to pick up A Darker Shade of Magic today. 

I also ended up getting a Heather’s Pick, because you can’t go wrong with those, and this one is called Everybody’s Son. 

Lastly, I got a book that Will recommended to me, and I wasn’t sure about it because there’s been some controversy, but I decided to see what it’s all about for myself  and grabbed 13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher. 

Overall, it was a fabulous day, filled with wonderful surprises and great friends. I feel refreshed and ready to keep reading. I loved to see how books can bring people together so today was very special and I’m grateful for it all. Until next time, keep reading. 

How to choose a book

You’ve just finished a book you’ve been reading for the last month and you loved it! You didn’t want it to end, but like all good things, it had to. It’s time to move on. But how!?! And why?!?

Choosing what book to read next can seem challenging, daunting, and might even dissuade you from picking up a new book so soon. Luckily, I’ve learned some helpful tips over the years that keep me reaching for that next great read. So stick around if you’re facing an inevitable case of “can’t decide what I want” syndrome. Continue reading

Book Review: The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood

As Atwood says so eloquently in The Handmaid’s Tale, there are two types of freedom: Freedom to and freedom from. Freedom to do what ever you want, or freedom from women being shouted at in the streets. I’d argue that you cannot have both at the same time. There is, however, a fine line in between these two types of freedom that we, as a society, must walk. The Handmaid’s Tale provides a fascinating examination of the intersection of these two types of freedom, and left me questioning whether good will win in the end.

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